This book was written to explain what God's love means, i.e. what exactly is God's love coined "agape" by the Greek scholars, and how one can receive God's love through the Holy Spirit.
It is a practical treatise rather an academic or theoretical treatise on how one can, practically, become "a real Christian" rather than "a Christian" i.e. how one can become "a real Bible-Believing-Holy-Spirit-anointed-and-daily-filled-Christian".
The part which explains how to love the unlovable in your life, e.g. your enemies, through receiving first the power of God’s unconditional and unlimited love in your heart, with which you can love the unlovable.
The concept and meaning of "agape" love is a love which is not conditioned to performance or merit but rather decides to love, in spite of countless flaws and shortcomings on the recipient of this unconditional love. For the Christian, we love unconditionally because God loved us first unconditionally, he chose us first, and sent Jesus to us, personally, to rescue us and set his love, practically on us; despite that we were and are still, sinners, who have been saved and are saints who are being transformed into the likeness of Jesus. Agape is the type of love that only sees the best in the recipient. Although you may not like someone, you decide to love them and forgive them of any shortcomings because Christ loved and forgave you in spite of your shortcomings. This kind of love is all about sacrifice as well as giving and expecting nothing in return.
The translation of the word agape is a love in the verb-form: it is a love demonstrated by your behaviour towards another person. It is a committed-love, i.e. this kind of love is the best love which, alone among all the four different loves, has the hope to save any marriage because it is an unconditional love. It is a love which always gives - never counting and never conditioned to the recipient's attitude or shortcomings, i.e. it is a completely unconditional love.
1.Phileo. This phileo love refers to an affectionate, warm and tender platonic love. It makes you desire friendship with someone. Although you may have an agape love for your enemies, you may not have a phileo love for the same people so it can energise your agape love; even though you love someone with a sacrificial love, philio love can enliven it with emotion since agape love resides not in your emotions but only in your choice to love someone - this is the kind of greatest love which God bestows and lavishes on us in the form of agape love because he made a choice before the foundation of this world to decide to love us despite our failings and shortcomings.
The translation of the word phileo is love in the noun-form: it is how you feel about someone. It is a committed and chosen love.
Storge - It is a kind of family and friendship love. This is the love that parents naturally feel for their children; the love that members of the family have for each other; or the love that friends feel for each other. In some cases, this friendship love may turn into a
romantic relationship, and the couple in such a relationship becomes best friends.
Since Storge love is a love shown between family members, it is an unconditional love but it does not have its source in God’s perfect, unconditional love; it accepts flaws or faults and ultimately drives you to forgive but it is not driven by God’s unconditional love. It’s a committed love since you are family members but only God’s love can love unconditionally.
Eros love is a passionate and intense love that arouses romantic feelings; it is the kind that often triggers “high” feelings in a new relationship and makes you say, “I love him/her”. It is simply an emotional and sexual love. Although this romantic love is important in the beginning of a new relationship, it may not last unless it moves to a higher-love because it focuses more on self, instead of the worth of the other person. If the person “in love” does not feel good about their relationship anymore, they will stop loving their partner.